Speaking Life

"If you can’t say something nice, you shouldn’t say anything at all.”
I bet you all grew up hearing that. The truth is, our words have power—they are tools. We use these tools daily to communicate and to relay thoughts. These tools can be kind, encouraging, and affirming. They can be words of hope that build others up. Those are the words all of us need.

Conversely, words can also be harsh, negative, critical, and demeaning. We have a choice. As Christians, it is imperative that we use wisdom and discernment when choosing our words. Unrestrained words can damage not only relationships but a person’s self-worth. Avoid speaking when you are angry. Once words are spoken, they can't be "unheard" (this applies to social media as well). No amount of apology can totally repair the damage done. We must realize that words have consequences, the "fruit." We should all endeavor to use our words positively to produce "good fruit."

I have an example from my own life. I had a difficult childhood, rife with both physical and verbal abuse. This treatment left me feeling unworthy and hopeless—that I would never be enough. I started going to a little church within walking distance. It was at this church that God blessed me with a wonderful Sunday School teacher, Mr. Martin. Mr. Martin taught me about Jesus—a Jesus who died for me! Mr. Martin and his wife were never blessed with children of their own, so they “took me under their wing.” They would take me to lunch after church, to church picnics, and often to their house for dinner. I would share my schoolwork with them, along with my hopes and dreams. Their kind words of affirmation and encouragement made me feel like I could accomplish anything that I set my mind to. Their words made me see that I was so loved by God, the creator of the universe! I truly blossomed under their kindness and encouragement. They were the most positive, loving people that I had ever met. The love and attention I received from them literally saved my life. I am so very grateful God put them in my life just when He did. I credit them for the fact that today, I am a Christian.